The Question of Paternity: Exclusive or Inconclusive
When there is a question of paternity the DNA testing provides a sense of security to the putative father while establishing the certainty of the paternity. The beauty of genetic testing is its reliability on the facts without prejudice, thereby providing equal justice for all. The primary step in establishing paternity is the administration of the DNA paternity test. The first process in the DNA paternity test is to exclude the putative father from the possibility of paternity with compete certainty. After ruling out the exclusivity of the alleged father, the next step is to inspect the inconclusive data to determine if the information can tell what contributions were made from each of the parties and from the results the probability of paternity is calculated.
Sometimes the simplest of things appear to be the most difficult ones. A seven letter word, so small yet it requires a tall order. It is unrecognizable due to the pain, anger and resentment of parents. We have lost respect for each other and ourselves. Adults have forgotten how to respect one another and must be re-taught how to be respectful. Respect appears to be a lost art and it is the very thing that we ask of our children.
Respect is....
1) Taking turns, Being fair and Sharing
2) Listening to each other; listening to what the other parent has to say
3) Being Honest with the other parent
4) Being Kind and Using Kind Words
5) Respecting the thoughts and Feeling of Others
6) Cooperating with One Another
7) Not listening to the gossip of a third party, to which is generally just one person's opinion based on little or no accurate
information.
8) Respecting the thoughts and feelings of the other parent
9) Holding your temper.
10) Thinking before you speak or act
11) Not allowing third party opinions in your personal matters unless it is from a trained counselor.
You my not practice each of the above respecting suggestions but at least put forth an effort to use good faith and civility to accomplish a successful parenting partnership and hopefully you will have less conflict.
There is a poster on the wall of my office that sums it up well and it reads:
"In 30 years it won't matter what hair style you wore, it won’t matter what designer jeans you wore or what shoes you wore. What will matter is what you learned and how you used it."
It will not take 30 year for you to receive your parenting report card. Your child will display the behavior he or she learned from you and we pray that he or she will display what they learned from you in a positive light. And, that they will view you as a positive role model.
As parents we must bridge the gap of communication through respect for one another, regardless of how we feel about the other parent for the sake of our children. We do not have to like the person but we must show respect if for no other reason than for our children.
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